Here We Go!





Thank you for coming. I am grateful and even humbled that you consider my rants and rambles worth your time. Starting a blog is something I have thought about doing many times but I never really got around to it because despite having a lot I wanted to say, I felt like the words and how to say them were not yet fully formed. I did notice recently, though, that I was ranting and rambling more than usual on my Facebook, to the chagrin of many of my friends I am sure. I could not keep the words in any more. They were pouring out of me. So to protect the innocent from becoming collateral damage, I’m going to give this a go.




First, a few ground rules. This is a space where I will attempt to engage women, particularly African women in discourse and debate about the issues that affect us. The views expressed here are mine and mine alone. The are not representative of my family, any school I attend or place of employment, or anything else that I am affiliated to. 



This blog has no religious affiliation. None whatsoever. I understand that many of my friends and readers are devoted Christians so if I will be posting about something they might construe as offensive I will put a disclaimer at the top.



I make a promise to be polite and respectful as much as is possible. Please do note, however, that I am given to ranting and I have been known to use profanity (some things NEED F-bombs, I’m sorry). Also, I will be discussing controversial issues and tempers are bound to rise. The blog is not called Find Palava Woman for nothing. I’ll only ask that we stay respectful of each others opinions.


I will be speaking in a combination of French, English and Pidgin English. Might even throw in some local Cameroonian languages. I’ll translate.



My posts are inspired by the world around me, the conversations I have and the things I see. This blog is basically your all access card into my head. Be warned. It’s a dark, dark place (…especially when the red river flows). That being said, some of you might recognize yourselves in things I write. I will be paranoid about privacy. I understand some of you do not care to share your business with the world, as I apparently do.



Some things I say would easily be construed as me being judgmental. I will always try to examine things from both sides,but this blog is about my take on these issues. I am not a perfect human being, but I don’t have to be perfect  to be able to speak critically about what I perceive to be problematic. Even Nelson Mandela had his issues.



OK. Enough disclaimers. We’ll figure this out as we go along. I fervently hope this becomes a space where we can speak honestly as friends, sisters, mothers and daughters. A place where we can tell our stories, inspire each other, challenge each other to greatness and above all find the inner strength to carve our own destinies.



I’ll leave you with this beautiful poem, whose author wishes to remain unknown.



Hearing the whispers of the wind
Feeling it’s twists and turns
Wondering what path it will take next
I stand at the precipice of a time unknown
Inching closer, lifting my eyes
Catching a glimpse of its zenith
Embracing the dancing wind
Meandering, slippery, always flowing
Inhaling an aura of a time unknown
Sweet melodies, dainty caresses
Almost deciphering
Messages from the depths of that time
Walking from the wind
Into the sunny garden
Where the birds chirp 
Where the River flows
Where the wind still blows
But this time, sweet aromas to my face.

10 thoughts on “Here We Go!

  1. Congratulations on the new blog! I especially love the name you chose. As a fellow “find palava” (woman with strong and sometimes controversial opinions), I look forward to your posts.
    Good luck!


  2. im itching to read!!!! love it already. abeg bring on the palava kwi kwik


  3. Bring the “Palava” on am ready to fight.Big up Girl


  4. Already loving this. The the palava on…lol.African women definitely need a voice and medium to discuss!


  5. ok mama. I wish you could talk on the upcoming Women's Day and why not February 14th.


  6. Hahaha! Thank you so much for the support everyone! I will be bringing the palava, don't worry !


  7. Congratulations, this is a great initiative. I.hope what you share inspires the men and women who will read your blog to make life easier for one another. Looking forward to it


  8. Hehehehe. Welcome to the blogosphere! Now, next item on the agenda. I know you already spoke about it in your note on FAcebook, but have you seen the transcript of DEncia's Whitenicious interview with Ebony magazine?


  9. Tiki, my post from yesterday tries to make sense if it all.


  10. OK! I'm finally in the know about the blog and I'm starting from the start. I give no disclaimers 😀 I am proud of you for doing this… speaking your mind as many are afraid to. Although this Poots is a bit more risquee than the one I used to banter with for hours a few years ago, I think that this opinionated characteristic has always been a part of you, and has been a very exciting part of our friendship – we stimulate each other's intellectual side 🙂 Again, super proud of you and I wish you every best thing in life! So let's go! 😀


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